Teens grieve well most of the time if left to their own methods. Sometimes adults expect them to grieve in the same way they themselves do.
5 ways to help teens grieve:
- Accept that your teen may grieve differently than you do. Unless they sense disapproval, they may cry loudly, express anger, or ask uncomfortable questions.
- Avoid the urge to offer answers they don’t seek. Encourage them to search for answers through prayer and Scriptures on their own.
- Demonstrate that you’re comfortable talking about the person who died.
- Allow your teen the freedom to leave the house to grieve with friends.
- Follow his or her lead when deciding how much time alone is needed including missing school.
What happens to “stuffed” grief?
We cannot skip grief. Grief that is “stuffed” will resurface. When it reappears, it is harder to process than it would have been earlier.
Watch for Depression
Teens experiencing grief display symptoms such as depression, perfectionism, or behavioral problems. If your teen experiences a loss of any kind, watch for these behaviors. If the suggestions above don’t work, seek professional help.
God promises that “weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning.” (Psalm 30:5 NLT)