Peer pressure is the most difficult challenge teens face. Even good kids fall victim to doing what other kids are doing even when it’s wrong.
Peer Pressure to Go to Barn Party
Dylan, the high school senior in recent articles, seems a saint. As any parent knows, no teens are perfect. He did have his act together most of the time. He was learning to be a blazing hot Christian in a secular high school. He stood up against peer pressure even when it was uncomfortable.
In a column several weeks ago, he wrestled with his commitment to be friends with girls rather than date one exclusively. After talking to her in the hallway, he had watched Sarah walk away and wished he could spend more time with her. The struggle got more intense when Sarah had a date with someone else. Jealously reared its ugly head. It was all he could think about for days.
Then, Will ran into Dylan in the hall. “Hey, Dylan. There’s another party this Friday night at my granddad’s old barn. Same as last time except girls are coming. Aren’t you friends with Sarah and Emily? I think they’ll be there. Wanna come?”
“Uh, probably not. Since I don’t drink…”
“Aw, come on. We may need a designated driver.”
“Well, I’ll see.”
That night Dylan struggled with his decision. It was easier to say no the last time, but this time Sarah would be there. What was she thinking, anyway? Maybe he needed to go protect her. He tried to pray, but he couldn’t. All he could think about was Sarah with that jerk she’d had a date with.
He ended up going to the party without telling his parents. He figured he’d check things out and get back to town in time to make his midnight curfew. That’s not exactly how it turned out.
Friday night, the sheriff heard that something was going on at old Mr. Malone’s barn. Around eleven, when the party was in full swing, he showed up with three deputies. They took the kids to the county jail and let them call parents. Dylan went home with his mom while several dads went to get the kids’ cars. Dylan’s mom sent him to bed—without his cell phone—and told him they would talk in the morning.
Right Communication Approach Will Matter
Next week, we’ll listen in on the conversation between Dylan and his parents.